The emotional somersaults author Roma Patton experienced after she asked her son if he thought he was homosexual set off crusades of faith-fused with shock, love and despicable anger to save her son. The unacceptable answer speared her heart but was not hers to change. The despair of what she could not change spiraled her to the bottom, it seemed the unprecedented storm had won. In Not Our Son, Patton is transparent of the profound disappointment and her emotions that spiraled her well being to hazardous plans and almost destroyed her marriage. She also tells of her ploys to convince her son he was wrong as well as the dread of embarrassment-desperate to keep his homosexuality a secret. Despite the clashes of anger, condemnation and sorrow that ravaged their lives, Not Our Son journeys into unconditional love, agreeing to disagree, ultimately saving the family.