Writing this book has been a labor of love because I truly believe that God has given me a passion and a heart for Singles and I know that the wisdom that He has imparted in me, much of it gained by going about things the wrong way, will help someone else that’s on this journey of what is commonly called the “in between” phase. Many things that I have gone through, the Master Teacher had to teach me again and again, but hopefully my struggles will turn into your lessons.
For some reason, because I am now content in my Singleness, although I’m still in this journey, some people have assumed that I was “there”; that I was all put together. This is the furthest thing from the truth. All the struggles and the heartache and the break ups (and make ups and break ups again), lead me to what you see now. We should never forget that we are all being transformed from glory to glory. We have to learn to give God glory in our Single state so that He can give us peace in it. Don’t forget where you see a person now is not where they have always been.
I believe by sharing in my struggles, you can also share in my joys. Many things I went through and things you’ll soon read about were hard lessons I had to learn, but it’s something you may be spared from going through. Learn from my experiences. If through my transparency, you can be encouraged, then sharing my story with those who have found themselves in or may still be in the same cycle I was delivered from will be worth it.
So, why the title Not Another Singles Book? Simply because it is not. I guarantee you that this book will be different from any other book you have ever read on Singleness. Why? First, it is written for Singles by an actual Single. I’ve read many a book about Singleness written by people who aren’t actually Single. Theoretically this isn’t wrong, but in reality, it gets kind of annoying. I know I am not the only person that has been irritated by a married person telling me how to manage my Single life. Mind you, that person was Single before at some point, so their advice can actually be very useful. However, when you are here and they are there, sometimes it can feel like someone already in the life boat, telling you to keep swimming. Great advice, but what we really want is help into the boat. That’s what this book will prayerfully give you—help into the boat. Not necessarily into the “marriage” boat, but the “satisfied” boat (or at the very least, throw you a life jacket to make the journey a little easier).